October 24, 2013

Halloween: Where Did Nice Sponge Bob Square Pants Go?

It’s here. That ghoulish-goblin, orange time of year. I have always loved fall because of the colors, the smells and because there is a reminder that God ordains change. Whether we like it or not, life appears, then it fades in beautiful glory before it reappears again after a long period of quiet.

Fortunately or unfortunately, Halloween is a part of the fall and here it is again. Costumes with warty cheeks, distorted mouths and goolish hair jump out at us in grocery store and drug store aisles. So, you who have young children, beware, even a trip to the store for paper towels can be frightening to little ones.

You and I have seen dramatic changes over the years in Halloween costume styles. Once upon a day we threw an old bed sheet over our children, cut out eyes, gave them a flash light and out into the neighborhood they went. No more. Costumes have become a source of anxiety for children if not parents. Young kids want to be the character that they want and if they can’t be him, well, they might just as well stay home. That’s easy enough to deal with, but when it comes to elementary school and middle school children, we need to be on our toes. Make a sweep down the costume aisle at any big chain store and you will find dresses adorned in black and red which even some pole dancers (maybe that’s an exaggeration) would be timid to wear. Yet, we actually consider buying these for Halloween for our young girls.

Feminist shake their fists because the costumes aren’t “gender neutral” and portray young girls as “too girlie” or as inferior to boys. Seriously? We’re going to argue about whether Spiderwoman should wear pink or black and red? Remember, people, Spiderwoman doesn’t really exist. But I am amazed that few men and women are insulted by highly sexually charge styles of our children’s costumes. Who cares if a girl looks too girlish, she shouldn’t look like a prostitute on Halloween (or any other time of the year.)

I strongly encourage you who are scouring the stores for Halloween costumes to make a few simple rules. First, you choose two or three costumes that you feel are acceptable for your kids and then let them pick one from those. That way, they get to have a choice, but you have control. Second, refuse to buy your girls sexy, skimpy, skanky clothes no matter how much they want them because their friends have them. Do you want other trick or treaters looking at your daughter as a sex object while she picks up her candy at the door? Don’t set her up for that. Third, remember that even though many boys act tough and want to wear ghastly, ghoulish masks and carry bloody heads with them, avoid these. Being goulish and being scary are two different things; so stick to scary. We forget that many boys are very sensitive and bloody stuff frightens them. I see many boys in middle school and junior high having sleep issues because of bad dreams from seeing too much violence.

Halloween can be a time when neighbors come out and chat with one another and kids run around in fun. But stay in charge. Keep a lid on sanity this Halloween particularly when it comes to costumes.

9 comments:

  1. I am enjoying reading your blog. I so agree with you on the costumes. My oldest is in 2nd grade and his friends showed up in bloody costumes for the fall festival this year, which I found a bit disturbing!

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  3. I think that Halloween provides a good opportunity for teens and tweens to experiment (safely and with supervision) around the taboo ideas of our culture. That's why I approve of faux-sexy costumes (especially ones that show individuality and creativity) as well as ones that toy with gore and violence.

    Obviously, the best judges of what is "too much" for any child's sensitivities are their parents, but I don't think I personally will be following this advice: that it is my role to be controlling over a trivial issue of a costume to be worn 3-5 hours per year.

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    1. Thumbs down on this post. This is exactly why our society today has so many problems and individuals are struggling for self value and identity. Dr. Dobson's blog is correct and accurate to the point.

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  4. Christians should stick to celebrating Fall Fest and not the pagan occult Halloween ritual. Costumes should be non-scary and non-violent. We have to stand against evil. The Bible says to "abstain from even the appearance of evil."

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    1. I agree completely!! Don't remain anonymous - its okay to speak out against what we believe in!

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    2. Here's how I feel about Halloween: I wish it never existed. It's absolutely the number one worst day of the year. One reason is because I agree with the person above that it is a pagan occult ritual. I even talked to a Druid Witch Wiccan Holy Man who said it is their most holy time of the year, because that's when their power for magic is strongest due to earth power being the strongest. But there's another reason why I hate Halloween so much: when I was backsliden, I had no idea as a Christian about what true Christian power was according to scriptures like Ephesians chapter 1. So I wanted power through magic. I actually acquired some knowledge of and practiced magic a little bit. I wished I never had. That's why I don't want to even look at "fun scary" Halloween stuff in the grocery stores. I hope this little post helps someone somehow.

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    3. Ephesians 5:6-12

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    4. "Druid Witch Wiccan Holy Man"? Trolls gets funnier every day.. :D

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